How to go from Stress to Calm daily tips to banish overwhelm

How to go from Stress to Calm daily tips to banish overwhelm

Hey, happy Sunday guys. Today for the Sunday story share I'm joined by Angie Hernandez, hypnotherapist and author of the upcoming book release DIY Calm. So without further delay I'm going to hand over to Angie to take you from anxiety to calm and start off your new week in a better frame of mind. Much love.

Hey Jade. Thank you so much for having me and happy Sunday to all your listeners. I'm a certified hypnotherapist, I've been practicing hypnotherapy for about 8 years and I see a lot of clients. Probably the majority of my clients come in for some kind of habit or problem that relates to anxiety, and as the years have gone by I've learned so many techniques that I teach my clients to use when they're not with me, little techniques to use your brain and physiology to clam yourself. So I thought why not put all those, many of them anyway, into a book so people that I don't even know can have access to them and share them. And I'm calling that book DIY Calm 101 Ways to go Instantly from Anxious to Calm.

I did this especially because I see children in my practice. Children I would have to say that I ave see are 100% coming in for a problem that's related to anxiety. They don't know how to cope with the anxiety. They have a lot of pressure in their lives from school, from home, from sports, from expectations, even their own expectations. And they don't really know how to cope with it all, and so it comes out in a habit of picking at skin, pulling their hair, oh boy, all kinds of different things. And it's really very simple to change anxiety into calm.

So I hope I can start your week off with a few little tips and tricks that are in my book and that I teach my clients, so I know they work, and I use myself, to get you from anxiety to calm. What we don't realize a lot is our physiology is set up to help us be calm people. We don't have to feel the stress until we get a heart attack. We don't have to feel anxious, so anxious we can't leave the house, or drive on the freeway. We can cope with these things ourselves. We don't have to have a psychologist, or psychologist all the time. Although, there are situations where you need them a little anxiety or stress, you can cope with this on your own. And the number one way to do that is one that I learned in my hypnotherapy college and I started teaching all the smokers I have come into me.

I see a lot of people who want to quit smoking. But what they tell me is, "Well I would quit for a while." And I would ask them, "Well why did you go back if you didn't want to smoke anymore?" "Well I had a stressful day." Or, "Something bad happened and I needed the smoking to calm me." Well cigarettes can not calm you because there are so many additives in the tobacco that are stimulants, but what does calm smokers is the way they breathe when they smoke, and the reason that it works, it isn't like woo-woo meditation, it's because our vagus nerve system, that big nerve system that comes out of our brain, like an upside down tree, a big trunk coming from our brain and then the branches go out to all the organs in our body. It's set up to calm it's self when you breathe in a certain way. It cannot resist this calm. It's like a little switch that you turn on to calm yourself down. The nerve system must do this. So using your own physiology you can calm yourself, and I'll tell you right now how to do this.

Now I call this a breathing anchor. We call it an anchor because we use a part of our anatomy as an anchor or you can think of it as a switch, just like you use your light switch to turn off and on when you couple an action with some kind of physiological move, and I'm going to recommend you rub your thumb and your first two fingers together while you do this. That action of rubbing your fingers together is a switch, and you're going to train yourself that whenever anxiety or stress begins to come up in your body, or your mind, you're going to touch those fingers together and the switch of calm will come on as you breathe your way to calm. This is very easy to do. It's a breathing method of four by four by four. So we inhale for a slow count of four. We hold that breath for a count of four, and then we exhale for a count of four.

So let's do it together. Rub your thumb and your first two fingers together, and let's inhale two, three, four. Now hold that breath, two three, four. And exhale, two, three, four. Do it one more time. In, now hold the breath, and exhale. I'm already starting to feel it, and you can keep breathing this way as you listen to the rest of what I'm going to say. Now this breathing anchor works so well, but understand that right now while you're listening to me you might not be very stressed. So two or three breaths might be enough to bring the calm in, but on a day when you're feeling stronger stress or anxiety, it might take 10 breaths. Okay, you can do 10. Maybe you need to do this technique for five or 10 minutes for it to totally calm you. Maybe you need to do it for half an hour. So what, you're going to be breathing anyway.

So do it in this way, so that you can calm yourself, and the great thing about the breathing technique is that you can do it anywhere. You don't need equipment. You can do it in front of people. They won't even notice what you're doing. And as you train your body to use this switch, the simple act of putting your fingers together will automatically start you breathing this way. It's just like training a puppy. You're going to train yourself to use this calming technique.

This and so many others I've outlined in my book, and it's like the absolute best way, training yourself to do new things that help your health, help your thinking, help your blood pressure for sure, and help you stay calm, because when you're calm you're thinking clearly and you're in control of yourself and the situation.

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